"Too often I sit in counseling sessions with people who say, 'This person has done this to me for years, and I am sick of it. He is mean and uncaring. He has hurt me for years.' I often ask, 'How did he respond when you discussed this in the past?' Then, to my utter amazement, I find that they have never discussed it. It is true that the offender should have been sensitive. But if it was not important enough for you to bring it up before now, then you are a partaker in your own pain.'
How true. And he continues:
"The goal of confrontation must be to help that person as much as to help yourself. You must help him to understand the nature of the offense. He needs to realize the effect his actions have on others so that he can have the opportunity do something about it."
How unfortunate that we rarely extend a second chance to people--or even allow them the opportunity to offer a sincere apology after we've given them time to come to an awareness of how their actions affected us.
Grace=Peace...even among ourselves,
Jeremy
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